It isn’t easy to find new friends. Some people “know” what to do. For neurodivergent adults, it can feel like a puzzle. There are rules no one explains, like when to talk or how often to call. These rules may seem invisible, but you can learn them without changing who you are.
In Therapy With Rose, I assist neurodiverse adults in addressing such issues and forming friendships that respect their individual ways of thinking and feeling.
We will discuss practical ways to understand social patterns, speak with confidence, and find friends who appreciate you for being you.
What Is Neurodivergent?
A neurodivergent brain works differently. Individuals can think, feel, or learn differently. Examples include autism, ADHD and dyslexia.
With the rise in neurodivergence diagnoses and self-identification, more adults recognize that they reason distinctively from others.
Being neurodivergent is not a limitation; it’s just a uniqueness. Numerous adults find their neurodiversity later in life.
At Therapy With Rose, I help clients understand what this means for their friendships and social lives. Recognizing these differences can clarify why friendships may have felt difficult before.
Recognizing Signs of Neurodivergence
Many neurodivergent adults notice they feel different. Common neurodivergent signs include:
- Feeling drained after social events
- Preferring deep conversations over small talk
- Taking things literally
- Feeling uncomfortable in loud or crowded places
- Needing clear instructions or honest communication
At Therapy With Rose, I help adults notice these neurodivergent signs. Understanding yourself is the first step to making friends.
Why Making Friends Can Feel Complicated
Friendships come with unwritten rules that are not explained. These include:
- How quickly to respond to messages
- How much personal information should be shared
- When to reach out first
These rules might seem daunting, particularly for neurodiverse grown-ups. Misunderstandings can happen, even when you try your best. This is natural and does not mean you are doing anything wrong.
Understanding Neurodivergent Communication
Communication styles vary widely. Some neurodivergent adults are very direct, while others may find it challenging to read facial expressions or tone. Both are valid.
At Therapy With Rose, I help clients communicate comfortably and authentically. For example, you can tell friends:
“I understand things best when people are clear and direct.”
Learning to communicate clearly doesn’t mean changing who you are; it just makes social interactions smoother.
Observing and Learning Social Patterns
You don’t need to hide. Just watch how your friends interact. Notice how they take turns, share stories, and solve problems together.
At Therapy With Rose, I help clients practice these skills in a friendly setting.
Begin with small steps. Ask a friend about their day or respond to messages when you feel ready. Friendship is a journey, and making mistakes is part of it.
Understanding Neurodivergent Behaviors
Some behaviors may look different but are normal for neurodivergent adults:
- Avoiding eye contact
- Needing alone time after social events
- Focusing deeply on a favorite topic
The right friends will accept these behaviors. At Therapy With Rose, I help clients see that true friendship is about understanding, not changing who you are.
Choosing the Right Spaces to Meet People
Not every social environment will feel comfortable. Many neurodivergent adults find connection more easily in spaces based on shared interests, such as:
- Hobby or interest groups
- Online communities
- Creative classes
- Volunteer work
Shared interests make social rules less intimidating and connections more meaningful.
Practical Ways to Navigate the Unwritten Rules
Here are some gentle strategies that can help:
- Learn patterns without losing authenticity
- Set clear boundaries, such as needing quiet time or preferring short messages
- Choose quality over quantity in friendships
- Take breaks when needed to manage social energy
At Therapy With Rose, I guide clients in practicing these strategies so that friendship feels supportive, not exhausting.
Dealing with Misunderstandings and Rejection
Even when the care is observed, misunderstandings may occur. Your intentions can be misunderstood by friends.
At Therapy With Rose, I teach clients how to handle these situations calmly. Positive connections afford the chance to explain, clarify, and forgive.
When a person disrespects you multiple times, therapy may help you focus on relationships with individuals who can listen to your point of view.
Managing Neurodivergent Symptoms in Social Contexts
Neurodivergent traits may be the source of social issues, such as:
- Anxiety
- Sensory overload
- Difficulty reading emotions
Practical strategies include:
- Choosing quieter spots for meetings
- Scheduling shorter interactions
- Taking small breaks during gatherings
These techniques help you enjoy friendships without feeling overwhelmed. At Therapy With Rose, I teach clients stress reduction strategies in social settings.
Considering Neurodivergent Testing
Some adults explore testing to understand their neurodivergent traits better. These neurodivergent tests evaluate focus, emotional responses, social behavior, and thought processes.
The goal is clarity, not labeling. Understanding yourself empowers you to build friendships that honor your unique brain.
Building Strong Friendships
Strong friendships grow slowly and are built on:
- Honesty about needs and limits
- Active and respectful listening
- Celebrating shared interests
- Accepting differences as strengths
At Therapy With Rose, I help clients practice these habits for genuine, fulfilling friendships.
The Most Important Rule
The most important unwritten rule of friendship: be yourself.
You do not need to mask or hide your personality.
The good friends will respect your sincerity, imagination and allegiance.
Neurodivergent adults often show great empathy and care in friendships. These traits are rare and valuable.
Final Thoughts
Making friends can be tough for neurodivergent adults, but it’s definitely possible.
To develop essential friendships, recognize yourself. Observe social cues. Practice conversations. Find shared interests. Speak honestly.
Therapy With Rose provides tailored therapy sessions for neurodivergent individuals. Meet in person or online to build confident friendships.
FAQs
Are neurodivergent people smarter?
No, all people are intelligent in their own manner. Some are very creative or focused.
Is depression neurodivergent?
No, but social stress and misunderstandings can lead to depression in neurodivergent adults.
How can I get tested for neurodivergence?
Talk to a mental health professional to get tested for neurodivergence. They can make a referral to formal adult assessment to clarify and support.
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